Monday, December 29, 2008

Online Dating 101


  1. Pick a mature (not silly or arrogant) screen name. BigMikey9inch may sound clever to you, but chances are SweetJen28 will want nothing to do with a guy who feels the need to 'advertise' (particularly when you are probably closer to NotSoBigMikey4inch). Have fun with your screen name, but avoid being vulgar or cocky. Stay away from names that denote wealth or immaturity. Chose names that are simple and easy to remember. "coming up with a name that gives an indication of what you are all about. So, for instance, if you like to ski and like to cook, your user name could be Skiingchef. Right off the bat, you get a sense of what this person is all about." Keep in mind that this is a name that might stick as a nickname, too, so nix options such as Baddabing or TeddyBearBoy.
  2. Use a high-quality photo. "A profile without a photo means one of two things to a woman: in a relationship or not so attractive". She will want to see your face, so shots with sunglasses and/or baseball hat might as well not even be there. "A hat leads her to assume that you have a balding problem and you are trying to hide it. Have someone take the picture for you - a self-portrait in the bathroom screams MySpace or desperate loneliness. Include a current - say, within six months - head shot and a full-body shot of yourself. Step it up with a picture of you laughing. "Most often people make their decisions based on the primary photo". If you see a picture of that pretty much looks like a model, you can be sure it is a scammer. They use them to lure you in and the reality is that people fall into these traps almost 75% of the time. At, we offer you the ability to upload up to 99 photos, so you can include a good cross section of photos to showcase your personality. Just make sure that the first one they see is an accurate representation of what you really look like and not how you wish you did.
  3. Be clever in your profile. "Don't start by apologizing! We don't need you to tell us that you are not a writer or you hate writing about yourself." Let your personality shine through. Start a mini blog and train your vocabulary. Since women are more emotional than visual, color in the picture with as many different facets of your personality as you can include. Self-deprecation and humor are always endearing way to get noticed, but whatever you do, avoid cliches such as, "I like long walks on the beach and holding hands". That's like saying, 'I like sleeping and breathing.'"
  4. Stick with the truth. Typically, men lie about they height and their women about weight. Most girls with actually do the adjusting and take an inch or two off whatever height you write anyway. But don't think that means you are in the clear. If you are only 5'7", and her profile says only over six feet need apply (or vice versa), play by the rules. Otherwise, don't be surprised if she takes one look at you on your first date and smacks you upside your lying, little head.
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